I can’t remember the last time I was able to say I was in a relationship. Since my ex of almost 9 years I haven’t really gotten into anything that I can call serious.
It’s crazy to me that I’ve made it to 8 whole months with Mr. Officer. As we all know dating sucks. I spent most of my 20’s being single because I was not at all interested in dating and I’ve spent my 30’slooking for someone to spend my life with.
When you’re in your 20s, deal breakers tend to be pretty superficial. It might boil down to what music they like, a dumb haircut, or a subtly annoying nervous tick. If you’re smart, you learn to ignore these things and be more open-minded.
In your 30’s its a whole different ball game. The deal breakers change and become more serious. In your 30’s you realize, shit I can’t be alone forever and not to say that being alone is all that awful for some.
Men and women both don’t take relationships seriously. It’s all about the hook up and that instant gratification. I look back at some of my blog posts and think,”I really went through that in dating”? Yep, I sure did.
Mr. Officer really came out of the blue into my life. When I was putting myself back out into the dating market I was not expecting to find someone as quickly as I did. I was expecting to go through the same rollercoster ride I did before I met him. It’s still so ironic how he just came into my life, all unexpectedly. I’m not complaining, but I’m still in shock.
Although it’s been 8 months, I can’t it’s been compete bliss, because the reality is it hasn’t. But it also hasn’t been that bad. Mr. Officer has his flaws as do I and as do we all. In the end the most important thing is weather or not we are willing to accept the flaws. Relationships take hard work and some people just aren’t cut out for that type of work. Luckily for me I found someone who is willing to put in the effort and work at it…